Here is a case out of Australia that is just wrong in so many ways. A 47 year old mother of 8 children and school teacher is convicted of trying to sexually abuse a 10 year old boy. Let me rephrase that. A 10 year old special needs student who was a student of hers and a neighbor. She received no jail sentence and only 200 hours of community service.
However there is more to this case. According to the article this woman, Diane Brimble, went way over the line in many ways. She had the boy’s name tattooed on her chest; she wrote him love letters in which she professed her love for him; she exposed herself to him; she showed him sex toys and she attempted to convince him he was old enough to have sex with her when he rebuffed her attempt to get him to sleep with her. She also had a framed photograph of the boy at her bedside.
The jury found her not guilty of the child grooming charge and the judge stated she was unlikely to reoffend. How the jury came to that decision is beyond me and the judge stating she is unlikely to reoffend is puzzling. How does he know she is unlikely to reoffend?
Think about how far this woman went and how far she might have gone if she had succeeded. It is way beyond normal, even for sexual offenders, to have their 10 year old special needs victims name tattooed on their chest.
Her barrister stated that Ms. Brimble “has not overstepped into criminal conduct.” She also went on to state that she had a difficult life and an abusive marriage. Many offenders, both male and female, have had abusive pasts. Yet we tend to give more sympathy to female offenders who have been abused than we do for male offenders.
Lastly ask yourself this. If this was a 47 year old male teacher who had done all this to a 10 year old special needs girl, do you think the outcome here would have been the same? Even close? I very much doubt it.
One of the many reasons why we try to raise awareness about female sex offenders is because so many people don’t even think they exist. Many times when someone reports that they have been sexually abused by a woman they are not believed.For example one study found this:
The following news story is an example of this happening. According to the report the man had been reporting that his mother had been sexually abusing him and his brothers and sister. He first reported his mother when he was 8 years old and nothing happened. He allegedly told authorities half a dozen times that he was being molested and raped by his mother and still nothing was done. (You can read the news story here)
For years these children were being molested, tortured, by their mother and nothing was done to help them. The courage they displayed in reporting it was incredible and the fact that they kept reporting it and being ignored is criminal.