The article below highlights many of the issues that victims of female offenders go through:
Campaigner reveals how she was sexually abused by her own mother
Article from The Sun (UK)
But for Susannah Faithfull it also brought back horrific memories of abuse she herself suffered – at the hands of her own MOTHER.
Mum-of-two Susannah, 54, who was subjected to years of depraved attacks, runs a therapy centre for survivors of sexual abuse.
And she hopes that finally the issue of female paedophiles is not being swept under the carpet – because when she tried to raise the alarm, no one helped her.
There she shared a room with her mother – but before long she dreaded hearing the key turn in the bedroom door because she would have to be alone with the sex fiend she called ‘Mum’.
Susannah, says: “I tried to tell people what was happening to me – my nan, my dad, my aunt. But it was a vile truth no one knew how to deal with, so I was ignored or labelled a liar.
One of her earliest memories was her mother locking them both in her grandmother’s room.
Aged just THREE the child was then forced by her mum to take part in depraved acts and when she finally refused a pillow was held over her face until she passed out.
This is common. Many victims of female sex offenders report this same experience of not being believed or of having their stories minimized in some manner. For some this can be as awful an experience as the abuse itself was.
Speaking at her Aurora Health Foundation therapy centre in Kingston Vale, south west London, near her home, she says: “I was so scared of my mother. She was abusive sexually and physically. I remember cowering beneath a tablecloth in a cupboard praying her rage would dissipate.
“I had no one to turn to. In a house buzzing with aunts, cousins and grandparents the only friend I had was a cat – Tibby. As soon as my mother realised how much she meant to me she picked her up and threw her against the wall.”
More than 50 years later Susannah is unable to stem the flow of tears for her pet playmate, who thankfully survived that incident.
She adds: “I was most scared when my mum sat silently. All I could do was imagine what horrors she was dreaming up – I would stare so hard at the wallpaper wishing it would swallow me up and I would die. It was the only way I thought I could be safe.
“My cot had high bars and my mother’s bed blocked the way to the door. The whole house was dirty and no one questioned why my mum had a lock put on our bedroom door and, in later years, why we shared a double bed.
“Our family didn’t talk to each other like normal ones do. It was easy for her to get away with it.”
The dysfunctional family appeared normal from the outside. Maureen was an attractive lady – slim and with blue eyes and auburn hair – who was proud of her appearance and wouldn’t go out without her hair done or make-up on.
Popular at the factory where she worked as a supervisor, she also had a boyfriend.
But her smart dress and friendly demeanour only helped disguise the horrors of her perverted mind.
This is another aspect that helps many female offenders remain uncaught. If the offender is attractive, popular, people will react differently to them. People often think there is no way someone like that could do something so awful.
She is now urging the public to become more aware of female abusers and says: “I don’t want a witch hunt but we do have to bring the problem of female paedophiles out in the open.
“Brushing it under the carpet means people get away with it.
“Children need to feel safe and on very rare occasions that doesn’t mean being with their mum.” – Read the entire article here